It seems that society have forgotten some important values, and are generally becoming more immature as a result. There doesn�t seem to be a differentiation between manliness and egocentric chauvinist behavior in a lot of people�s minds, which is truly sad. You have people saying things like 30 is the new 20, and grown men acting like entitled spoiled children. The truth is that once you�ve stepped into your mid-20s you should have gained enough life experience to be able to behave like a mature adult.
Here are the things that mature men don�t do.
1. They don�t let fear keep them from achieving happiness and success
Fear � whether it be fear of failure, fear of being reprimanded or fear of being rejected � is something that keeps most men back. A mature man knows that fear is always present, but he knows who to deal with it.He doesn�t hesitate to put himself out there and take some risks, particularly when the only consequence to taking an action will be a slightly bruised ego or a bit of discomfort. Mature men live on the very edge of their comfort zone and take frequent trips into the wilderness that lies beyond that edge.
2. They don�t go do things just to please others
You often see young guys who start working out to impress girls, men who read up on wine tasting or art just so others perceive them as classy, and you also have those who go out of their way to come across as smart, so that their boss and coworkers will respect them more. Mature men are not motivated by what others think � their actions are motivated by a sincere desire to improve, learn and develop in a direction that they themselves have chosen.
Mature men train to be healthier and stronger, they read books and take classes to expand their knowledge and develop skills in areas that they find useful or interesting. In other words, they know who they are and what they want, and although they respect others� opinions, they are only governed by what they believe is the best choice.
3. They don�t create an idealized image of a woman in their mind
Many relationships fall apart when immature men realize that the image of the ideal woman that they have put on a pedestal and have been admiring all this time doesn�t really sync up with reality. Many guys go from zealous admiration to misguided misogyny when their deluded expectations aren�t met by real women. Women are just like men � they have their strengths and weaknesses, admirable traits and forgivable faults, desires and fears. A mature man knows this and feels much more at ease with women, seeing them as his equal, and can thus develop sincere and healthy relationships.
4. They don�t get baffled by a woman�s words or actions
Even though mature men treat women as equals, they are aware of the simple fact that men and women are fairly different on a number of levels � e.g. from a biochemical, psychological and social standpoint. We are brought up differently and our brains are wired differently, and a mature man understands that women communicate, argue and are emotionally affected by things differently than men are.
This is why such a man is not easily baffled or angered by a woman�s words or actions, and is more than capable of seeing things from a different perspective and picking up on subtle cues � it�s not about mind reading, just about developing a deeper understanding of the female psyche and body language cues.
5. They don�t hold grudges
Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. � Buddha
Arguments will happen between family members, friends, lovers and coworkers, it is inevitable if you spend a lot of time with someone. However, a clear sign of maturity is the ability to cool off after an argument and let go of all the negative feelings. You will hear the phrases �I�m sorry,� �forgive me, I was wrong to do that,� �oh, just forget about it, it�s nothing, really,� and �water under the bridge� spoken by mature men, as they give and receive apologies and move on with their lives. Harboring resentment will poison your relationships and lead to unhappiness.
6. They don�t feel insecure about their appearance and style
Another big issue many men have is that they feel insecure about the way they look, dress and act. Insecurities lead to fear, anxiety and anger, which will negatively affect your life in many different ways. Insecure men are afraid to experiment with fashion as they don�t want to be considered feminine, and they don�t feel comfortable in their own shoes.
The world has evolved, and fashion sensibilities have drastically changed. There are a number of fashion accessories that can be worn by both sexes, and you don�t even have to sacrifice utility for style. A mature man is confident in his appearance and unique fashion sense, and doesn�t care about a few people disapproving or making negative comments.
7. They don�t distance themselves from their family
As the years go by and we mature, keeping strong family ties becomes more apparent. There are some instances where it is not possible for a family to stay close, but most of us can afford to spend a bit more time with our parents, relatives, wife, and kids. Quality family time strengthens ......... GO TO THE NEXT PAGE >>>>>
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